Saturday, December 10, 2011

Nanny, Babysitter, Au Pair... Is There a Difference?


Emphatically, yes!  The titles are only related in that they are forms of childcare performed for a private family.

      A babysitter is generally someone who takes care of a child on a very part-time basis, with no special training and, generally, low expectations and few responsibilities.  Babysitting is definitely not considered a career.  

     Au pairs are generally a form of babysitter working part-time under a student visa.  They are not trained nannies and, in many cases, are under the age in which they would legally be allowed to care for children in their home countries.  Despite these drawbacks, au pairs may provide older children with insight on life in foreign countries and a playmate for them.  The best utilization may be as a “mother’s helper” in a household where one parent is usually home.  Again, these students do not usually plan to make a career out of caring for children.

     In contrast, a family investing in a nanny often has high expectations of them. A family puts a great responsibility into their hands.  Experience with children and training are often critical as children often spend the majority of their waking hours with nannies who are largely unsupervised.  The very minimum amount of training would be certification in CPR and first aid, but really even a daycare center requires more than that!

     The nanny’s role in a family is multifaceted.  The nanny becomes the predominant role model for a young child.  They are the source of chatter that is critical to early speech development.  They are choosing the majority of their young charges, meals.  They become a parent’s trusted ally for character development and a resource for information and advice on nutrition, child behavior, discipline, early education, and socialization.

     A well-qualified nanny performs a great variety of tasks and functions.  Nannies may ease a newborn onto their first schedule.  They will most likely talk constantly to them knowing that each word is feeding into a baby’s language development.  As the babies grow into toddlerhood their nannies are helping parents add in things like new foods to the diet, maintaining an eye for nutrition, health, possible reactions or an understanding of appropriate behavior.   A nanny’s knowledge of CPR and first aid is barely the tip of the iceberg.

    Nannies are often important partners in helping the parents they work with “potty train” their toddlers.  They may be the ones to spot the initial signs of readiness.   They may be the ones to provide preschool learning experiences, assisting parents in providing optimal learning environments at home.  They are part teacher and part caretaker.  Nannies continue to learn and grow on the job adapting to the needs of the children and families through the development of a unique, caring relationship, while bringing with them the knowledge and experience of previous training and childcare work.

     With all the duties and expectations it may sound as if a nanny is a hired stay-at-home parent, however, nannies are not ever a replacement for either parent.  To the contrary, a good nanny seeks to foster loving, healthy relationships between parents and children.  They seek to ease the stress of daily transitions, ease a parent’s mind about going to work, strengthen parental resolve in setting firm limits, and help parents cope with the sometimes challenging stages their children are going through.  Because of this, I know of at least one nanny who has been compared to Mary Poppins.  Truly, the magic of the mythical nanny of the movies happens not in the waving of a wand but in the loving relationship between parents and their children her “mission” accomplishes.

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